Are You Perceptive Or Are You Clairvoyant?

Many things in life cannot be explained.

For instance how many times have you been thinking about someone and with in seconds they have contacted you? You might even have been on the point of telephoning them.

Or you may have been singing a song or thinking about one and you switch on the radio or music centre and find that very same tune is playing.

Years and years ago my Mum had a miniature poodle and now and again she would howl I asked my mum why does she keep howling and she said she always does it just before they phone rings. It was a land-line in those days. I found this very strange because it is only seconds from dialling, that the phone rings. What is more how did she know?

In nature a butterfly flies to Mexico 2,500 miles with muscles the size of a grain of rice where is meets others in some particular trees. They only live four months but how do they know how to get there?

The great Boxing Day tsunami had some tribes on little islands heading for the hills and elephants broke lose and also headed for the hills. Hardly any animals died because they knew something was happening and moved to higher ground. How did they know?

We attribute these things mostly to instinct because we cannot think of anything else to call it.

So what is clairvoyance?

Well this is the ability to see or feel or know the future.

So how does this work?

If you are a sensitive person, for instance if a friend or someone rings you, you might know that something is wrong, but not know what it is?

You might feel that a friend is going to be ill or their relationship will end.

This is Clairvoyance because you are seeing the future.

Then you like a lot of people could well develop a certain amount of clairvoyance if they wanted, as you are obviously very perceptive. One of the best ways to do this is by meditation. Just ten minutes a day will help you, by using the tarot cards or even a crystal ball.

You will need silence and to be comfortable and have a restful area.

Take one card and try to go through a meditation, and when relaxed stare at the card or the crystal ball if you can without blinking and see what comes into your mind. Only do this for a few minutes. You may see shapes, people or symbols. Or you may see nothing at first. The more you meditate the more you will develop. Or you could go to a Spiritual Church and have their advice and be guided by them. Or you could have a reading with one of our clairvoyants and get further help and advice.

Many people are in a boring humdrum predictable and loveless relationship. You might ask why do they put up with it?

Often it is because there is no real initiative to do anything about it.

If a partner was horrible to you, treated you badly in some way or cheated on you then it would be an incentive to do something about it. So some people drift on and on and do nothing about their circumstances. Others stay in the relationship because it suits them. Maybe they have the freedom to do what they like or they have financial security. Another reason is that they have children and reason with themselves that they will do something about it once they are older. But is it good for children to be brought up in a loveless and often cold atmosphere? Surely it is not a good role model for them and it will affect their relationships when older as it will be the norm for them.

Also is it healthy for your wellbing?

So look at your situation and ask yourself are you happy?

Secondly do you want this situation for the rest of your life?

If the answer is no, then do something about it.

At least make a plan so that you can be happier if not happy. You could open a savings account and try and save, even a little here and there soon ads up, you will need it for your future.

If you want to work eventually you could take a course in something that you are interested in like a computer course or woodwork course that will hold you in good stead for the future.

If work is not your interest long-term then you could join an interest group. Local libraries often have interesting things on. This will increase your social life and you will meet people who are interested in the same things as you. If finances are your worry then citizen’s advice will point you in the right direction where you can see what you can claim. For every problem that you have there is an advice line. A solicitor can give 30 minutes free if you want to see where you stand from a legal point of view and also what you are entitled to.

So don’t be unhappy there is help out there and once you start things moving then doors will open for you.

Have you ever thought that a colour can affect your mood or your health?

Well according to research yes it can affect your health and your mood.

For instance it is not advisable to put bright vibrant colour in a bedroom and certainly not in a child’s room.

Colours such as red bright orange etc. stimulate the brain and would tend to keep you awake. Which is the last thing you would want in a baby or a child’s bedroom. Bedrooms need cool resting colour such as pastel blues greens or pale pinks.

A lot of red in a room can give some people headaches or even migraine.  

A lounge is usually a place to rest and relax, so calming colours are needed here to surround you and make you feel chilled out.

However, although white can look gorgeous too much can give a clinical cold look and make you feel that you are sitting in an operating theatre, which would not do a lot for your raising your mood.

However if there are clever tones of other colours with the white then it can look great and feel that you are sitting in luxury and opulence.

A lounge would not be good in too much strong blue as blue is a cold colour and would not have that calm effect on you.

Kitchens can be bright with yellows or greens.

Black can be used on work tops and look great in a kitchen however too much use of black in other areas could make you feel depressed, and can give a feeling of claustrophobia.

Again if black is used cleverly with other colours the affect can be stunning.

A good idea is to Google the colour that you want and ask for other colours to go with it and you will see brilliant set ups. Or you can just put in the colour of your carpet and sofa and see what colours Google come up with.

It seems that it is more accepted that a man can have a younger woman hanging on his arm or even marry someone years younger.

Although eyebrows are raised if the man is wealthy and people wonder if the woman is a gold digger.

When a woman has a relationship with a much younger man is seems that it is not accepted quite so well. May there is an element of jealousy that makes gossipy remarks from people.

Also when a man has a relationship with a much older woman it does cause gossip.

Well why shouldn’t you have a relationship with anyone that you are attracted to?

The question most asked, will be will the relationship last in old age when a woman is much older for instance?

 However there have been famous people who have successfully had relationships well into old age where there has had been a significant years difference.

However there are many relationships in all these categories that are happy and last for many years.

If your partner has many years difference it can last as long as they are mature.

If you are attracted to someone where there is an age difference and you do nothing about it then in the years ahead you might well look back and think what if and have regrets?

If you get on and have a lot in common and are attracted to the person then why not explore a relationship with them, after all age is only a number.

It does not matter what others think as long as you are happy in your relationship whatever age discrepancy there is does it?

If you fall in love with someone where there is an age difference and family or friends object and try and interfere, then take on board what they say, but if you feel your relationship is right then follow your heart.

So take courage if you are attracted to someone where there is a significant age difference and give it a go, at least you will not look back and wish that you had.

It is very tempting to try and get together once you have left a relationship.

After a couple of months of being on your own then reality kicks in and you begin to miss the one that you loved.

You may also have financial difficulties and feel lonely as well, which can lead you into thinking well, it was not too bad and start to think about trying again.

However, the statistics are not good for people getting back together . In 87 percent of couples that try again only about 13 percent stay together.

The problem is that if you have problems then they must be sorted out before the relationship can succeed. Otherwise, the problems will occur again and within a few weeks or months you will be back to square one.

On top of those issues, there may be other issues, like having to trust your partner, which you must do or things will just eat at you and cause a break down between you.

Or, maybe you will find it hard to forgive your partner. Which is essential if you have to make a success of your relationship.

The past problems have to be put in the past and not dragged up every time you have a disagreement.

If you really love your partner, it would be worth having counselling or a mediator to help you come to terms with your problems.

Are you sat at home alone with just a pet to talk to?

Or maybe you do have a very busy life and plenty of friends, but no love in your life and you have given up looking.

I remember some years ago a lady in her late fifties came to see me for a reading.

All she wanted to know was if she was going to get married, that was all she wanted in life, to be happily married.

She was a professional person and met many different people every day in her work.

She still lived with her parents who were elderly but very well off.

This lady had an action packed life; she had horses and went riding.

She travelled the world and had many interests and many friends.

In spite of her privileged life she had never really had a loving relationship.

She told me that she just had not clicked relationship wise with any one that she had met, although there were plenty of men that she had liked and got on with but not fallen in love with.

I told her that she would get engaged by the time she was sixty and she would get married a short time after.

I am pleased to say that my predictions came true.

In fact she got engaged on her birthday when she was actually sixty.

She retired early and has been very happy.

So my point is, it is never too late to find love.

There is someone out there for everyone.

So don’t give up.

Why not have a reading with one of our excellent readers and see when you will find love?

Many people have asked me – “Will my lover ever leave his wife or partner and come and live with me?” the answer is usually NO!

Why is that? Well, the answer is because it suits him or her. The man does not want to upset his wife or lover, his friends or his children. He also does not want to have his finances becoming compromised as often it would leave him worse off.

However, he will often come up with a great variety of excuses for not leaving. The favourite being he will leave when the children are older.

Another favourite is that his wife is not well, or her parents are ill and she has a lot to cope with so he cannot just leave her as he would feel guilty, and it would not be fair. If you are the mistress, then you would reason that he is being caring and carry on with the relationship.

He is in a great position; he has a caring wife who cooks and cleans for him and for his excitement and to make his day out of probably a boring or routine relationship he has a secret sex life.

Someone who cannot do enough for him is at the end of the phone, craving for his calls his texts and his visits. If he calls late at night only, then you are definitely being used. If he never takes you out, then it would appear that you are cheap to keep happy!!

Some women are happy to be a mistress and carry on with their lives with other relationships too. However there are few than can carry on with such a situation and be happy about it.

So as I have said before look at a person’s behaviour not at what they say. Do they follow through with what they have promised to you?

If you have been a mistress for a while, then you can say that you are going to stay being a mistress.

One way to test your relationship is to tell them to come back once they have got a divorce or are actually separated. I think that you will have a long wait!!

This is a very difficult situation as each relationship is different.

If your partner has had a fling with someone at work for instance and you know that they are seeing each other daily, even though the fling has finished, it would be very difficult to forgive.

It is the trust that will hit you; you would be thinking if he or she was late from work were they seeing each other again.

You would be quite in order to ask them to leave that work place as a sign that the fling is definitely finished.

Can you forgive them without searching through their pockets and their phone if you have the chance, and checking up on them and do it on a constant basis.

If not it will eat at you and you will find your relationship will be doomed.

You have to be able to forgive and trust your partner. Trust has to be earned and built up, only then will you will able to repair the damage done to your relationship.

However some people in relationships put up with their partner cheating, some cheating regularly.

The reason many don’t leave their relationship is because it just suits them.

Perhaps they are willing to put up with things because they have financial security or status of some kind.

Maybe they feel they can have relationships too.

Others can feel trapped in the relationship and cannot find the momentum to do anything about it, so they just put up with everything.

We are all entitled to be happy, so after living with someone for a while, you find that you cannot forgive them, well the answer is to move on and not waste your life.

Is your relationship boring? Do you feel trapped or in a rut? Do you feel that you are being controlled and can do nothing about it?

Well, a lot of people are in the same boat, and they do nothing about it.

There is a lot of help out there so don’t waste your life staying in a bad relationship.

One of the main reasons that people do not leave a relationship are the finances, they feel that they cannot manage on their own.

A trip to a good divorce solicitor is a must if you are married or are in partnership financially with a partner.

Citizens advice are good at helping with debt and will give advice on many areas that you will need to know.

It would be a good idea to confide in someone that you trust about what you want to do.

Your local DWP will tell you what benefits you can claim and social services can help where children are concerned.

Your local council will help with housing as well as housing associations and you can also rent privately.

For people that are in abusive or violent relationships there are safe houses and refuges where they can go.

There are also many telephone help lines which you can Google.

So shake a leg and make that first step to get help and you will not regret it, move on and have a lovely life.

It is really easy to tell if a man fancies you as it is all in the body language.

A man will keep looking at you if he is across the other side of the room for instance and, if he is with you will keep trying to get eye contact.

He will be constantly preening himself by undoing his shirt collar button, arranging his collar and running his fingers through his hair.

He will keep turning his head towards you if he was in a group for instance although his body may not face you and if he makes eye contact, he will smile.

When close up the iris – that is the black dot in the middle of his eye – will dilate, that is it will get bigger. Something that he has no control over and a sure sign he is interested, if you can get near enough to look into his eyes!!

His mouth will slightly be open and he may well touch his lips or even his ears.

A strong sign is also if he is nervous or a bit fidgety in your company.

When standing or sitting his feet will tend to point straight at you.

Men wearing jeans often stand with their thumbs in their pockets with their hands pointing down towards their genitals, say no more!! They are saying I am a man and I am ready!!

They will touch your arm when talking and if you touch them first will respond by touching you back.

They will try and make you laugh all the time keeping a lot of eye contact.

Why not have a reading with one of our excellent Psychics and find out about your love life.