Is your relationship boring? Do you feel trapped or in a rut? Do you feel that you are being controlled and can do nothing about it?

Well, a lot of people are in the same boat, and they do nothing about it.

There is a lot of help out there so don’t waste your life staying in a bad relationship.

One of the main reasons that people do not leave a relationship are the finances, they feel that they cannot manage on their own.

A trip to a good divorce solicitor is a must if you are married or are in partnership financially with a partner.

Citizens advice are good at helping with debt and will give advice on many areas that you will need to know.

It would be a good idea to confide in someone that you trust about what you want to do.

Your local DWP will tell you what benefits you can claim and social services can help where children are concerned.

Your local council will help with housing as well as housing associations and you can also rent privately.

For people that are in abusive or violent relationships there are safe houses and refuges where they can go.

There are also many telephone help lines which you can Google.

So shake a leg and make that first step to get help and you will not regret it, move on and have a lovely life.

It is really easy to tell if a man fancies you as it is all in the body language.

A man will keep looking at you if he is across the other side of the room for instance and, if he is with you will keep trying to get eye contact.

He will be constantly preening himself by undoing his shirt collar button, arranging his collar and running his fingers through his hair.

He will keep turning his head towards you if he was in a group for instance although his body may not face you and if he makes eye contact, he will smile.

When close up the iris – that is the black dot in the middle of his eye – will dilate, that is it will get bigger. Something that he has no control over and a sure sign he is interested, if you can get near enough to look into his eyes!!

His mouth will slightly be open and he may well touch his lips or even his ears.

A strong sign is also if he is nervous or a bit fidgety in your company.

When standing or sitting his feet will tend to point straight at you.

Men wearing jeans often stand with their thumbs in their pockets with their hands pointing down towards their genitals, say no more!! They are saying I am a man and I am ready!!

They will touch your arm when talking and if you touch them first will respond by touching you back.

They will try and make you laugh all the time keeping a lot of eye contact.

Why not have a reading with one of our excellent Psychics and find out about your love life.

The answer is a definite yes!!!

Why?

To save you heartache in the future.

When you meet someone new and you really like him or her it is always a plus if you know someone who knows him or her or a bit about them.

Then you can have a friendly chat and find out more about them and whether they have a history that you cannot cope with.

If you don’t know anyone that knows them then you can always check out the media face book etc. If there is nothing about them in that area then maybe you can speak to one of their friends or family.

Even a friendly barman where they may visit regularly may enlighten you.

If none of these work for you then you will have to be very careful.

Many men and women target a new partner for their particular needs. They tend to overwhelm you at first sending continuous texts and phone calls sometimes gifts and flowers as well.

After three months there could be a dramatic change.

Often that is when the cracks start to appear.

The idea is to draw you in and maybe move in with you if they can.

Be very suspicious if someone new asks for money early on in the relationship, whether it is alone or any excuse to do with finances.

It is a well-known red flag that you are being targeted and used.

So be very alert with anyone new that you meet who has no family or friends even if they come up with a plausible story. It is often a sign that they have left an unpleasant situation behind.

It is always best to be careful if there are a string of relationships behind them.

If a previous partner of your new interest contacts you and tells you horrible things about them it could be they are just jealous, or there could be truth in what they say. So, it would not hurt you to keep an open mind and if possible, do some digging about your new partner.

With Google you can now see where people have lived and where they work.

Just taking a few diplomatic enquiries could save you heartache in the future.

Of course, it would also help to have a romantic reading with one of our experienced psychics.

Can you tell if your partner or new person in your life is lying?

Well there are some pretty sure signs that they are if you look for them.

One of the finest things is your gut feeling or instinct, is it telling you that something is not quite right?

If you feel this way then you can bet your bottom dollar that there is something wrong.

A liar has to have a very good memory for a start, as inconsistences in their stories should raise your suspicions.

Do they hang on to their phone and never part with it, even take it to the loo or take it with them to the shower?

They definitely will have a password on it.

Do they rush into another room to answer it?

If so something is not quite right.

Do they want to take you out to a Pub or Restaurant or Public place?

If the answer is no then ask yourself why?  If they just want to stay at your home or hide away in some very quiet place again ask yourself why?

They are obviously hiding from someone or something and do not want to be seen with you.

If they do not introduce you to their friends or family then that to is a bad sign, although it can also be a sign that they are not serious about you too.

Look at a person’s behaviour and not what they say, ask yourself do they tally up, or are they saying one thing and doing another.

This is a sure sign that they are lying or are up to something that they do not want you to know about.

Do they go out and give silly reasons for where they have been and whom they have been talking to?

Do they suddenly give you chocolates and flowers for no reason, this can be a sign of guilt because they have been up to no good and also want to look good to your friends and family that they are not doing anything wrong they are just being a good partner.

Other signs of a liar are that when asked a question they tend to fidget. They sometimes will not give you eye contact.

They will also talk a lot because they feel nervous.

They will often scratch their nose hiding their mouth with their hand, psychologically showing they do not want you to see the truth.

They will also wave their arms about more than usual and go into a lot of detail hoping to put you off the scent.

People who control their partners are not always aggressive or violent.

One of the first signs of a controlling person in a relationship is that the partner tries to isolate their partner from family and friends.

In can start in quite a small way by them complaining how often or how long you talk to your relatives or friends, or how often you visit them or go out with them.

They will try and turn you against your family or one particular person if you are close to them.

The object is to get you in a position so that you don’t have any one to back you up or turn to and that you rely on them only.

They will try and get you to be totally dependent on them emotionally.

You will lose confidence in yourself if you stay with them and you will even think that it is your fault that there is a problem and that is one of their aims.

They will criticize you in a small way at first; it might be, if you lost some weight and wore such and such, I would fancy you a lot more, that kind of thing.

It happens to people across the board from highly educated to no education, we are all a target for the controller.

It does not matter how intelligent you are or how much money you have the controller can relentlessly target you, till he or she gets what they want.

What they want is total control of you.

I once new a lady who if she met a friend for coffee for instance, he would send relentless texts to her till she came home, and in the end she gave up going out! That’s how bad it can get.

They spy on you what ever you are doing.

They want a minute-by-minute account of what you were doing if you just went out for a loaf of bread, and God help you if you took longer than they thought you should off.

They go through your phone, as they don’t trust you.

They make you feel guilty and nervous.

At worse they can be threatening and abusive and violent.

So if you see any of these signs in a new relationship, run for the hills.

If you are already in a controlling relationship, seek help there is plenty out there.

To celebrate the launch of Sophie’s new underwear brand which incorporates natural healing crystals, we are running a promotional offer as a collaboration. The offer includes 10% off the first 10 orders with the discount code ‘ERMOON11’. The discount code can be used at checkout on the website – 

https://moon11bodywear.com
Find out more in Sophie’s blog post below.

MOON 11 is a limited-edition bodywear brand, which focuses on combining meaningful jewellery such as healing crystals with underwear, to create detailed, crafted and one of a kind bodywear. Our pieces can be worn as underwear or as outerwear and within layering.

Our mission is to empower the wearer through comfortable, unique, and flattering bodywear. Meaningful and high quality details, adjustable fits, and soft, breathable fabrics. We work in limited and exclusive ‘Chapters’, so every item is extra special. This means our designs are made ethically in limited quantities.

All our pieces are designed, developed, and handcrafted in the UK, using raw materials that are ethically sourced, including the healing crystals. Our components are sourced locally where possible, and all our packaging is made from recycled materials or is biodegradable.

In Chapter 1, we use natural healing crystals, to empower the wearer through the power of crystal healing. We believe that by having the crystals close to your skin, will enhance the maximum benefits from the energy they emit. This is because they are direct to the skin for a long period of time.

Having studied lingerie and swimwear design at London College of Fashion, I have always had a passion for contoured garments and bodywear. Alongside my passion for lingerie, I am inspired through spirituality, my mum and grandma have owned a spiritual healing and psychic company for over 20 years. I also get my inspiration from space (it’s in my name!), film, meaningful jewellery and the female form.

I wanted to create something magical and another ‘world’ for you to get lost in, like a story. I hope you enjoy the story and welcome to the universe of MOON 11.

Love always,

Sophie Moon – Founder, Designer & Creator

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The Tower of London has been around for 900 years and is considered to be one of the most haunted places in the United Kingdom. It was built by William the Conqueror in 1078.

Anne Boleyn one of Henry VIII wives who was beheaded has been seen looking through the window of the room where she was imprisoned. She has also been seen walking around the rooms with her severed headed under her arm after the place has closed. She has also been seen at the site where she was executed.

Thomas A Becket was one of the first Ghosts to appear in the Tower of London. He was Archbishop of Canterbury in 1162 till his murder in 1170.

Perhaps the not so famous ghost is Arbella Stuart who was a potential successor of Elizabeth I. Her ghost has been seen haunting the Queens House, which is situated on Tower Green. She was seen as a threat to the crown, and it is believed that she was murdered in the Tower of London at the age of 39 years of age.

The ghosts Edward V and his brother Richard were often seen holding each other in fear. They were often seen playing then they suddenly disappeared. It was thought that they were murdered by Richard III, but it was never proved.

In 1674 a box was dug from under some stairs up by workmen containing some small bones. These were thought to be the princes and King Charles II had them buried at Westminster Abbey where they remain today. In fact, the present Queen has refused access to do DNA we don’t know why.

The large white tower is said to have a ghost of a white lady. There are many stories that people have told about hauntings and strange feelings that have occurred at the Tower of London. It is a place steeped in history, so it won’t be surprising if these stories carry on.

If you are looking for a new partner, it is tricky these days, especially with Covid stopping many social events. However, things are beginning to relax so bear this in mind.

Look at your own interests first and what you like doing.

For instance, you might like reading. Most Libraries have a book club, which is usually free. They also hold events, talks and day classes at very reasonable prices.

You may like some kind of craft-work, look at your local council, community, college and schools as they usually hold a variety of interests.

If you like exercise there are local Gyms but if you can, go to one with a café so that you can sit and chat and talk to others. Go to the classes they have too, not just go on the equipment and you will soon start conversations.

There are rambling groups that you could join and if you like swimming, there are swimming times where adults only attend. If you go regularly you can soon get talking and widen your social life.

There is a lot out there if you know where to look.

For retired or semi-retired people, men and women, the U3A is very good. It stands for Universe of the Third Age, the last third of your life!! There are over a thousand of these clubs in the UK.

It is a club not a dating agency, although you may well meet someone there. It is reasonably priced, about £18 per year, this varies from club to club but only by a little.

The format is usually business of the day first, where people explain what is on offer, for example a day out to Whitby and the cost and the details.

Then there is usually a speaker for an hour, which could be on any subject from Tudor History to Bird Watching.

There are often about thirty interest groups which are held once a month that you can attend as well. These interest groups can be on anything like a lunch group, rambling group, poetry, tenpin bowling and so on.

Most details are on the web sites. It is a great way to increase your social life.

If you want to look specifically for a partner, then of course there are the dating sites.

You could Google the best ten, however it is better to pay for the site, although you could try the free ones first. But in my experience of doing readings the majority of people find if you pay you tend to get more genuine people.

It would be better if you gave a nick name at first, to prospective dates, and never give your real name and your e-mail as it is possible for them to hack into your bank. I have seen it done.

Of course, when meeting someone for the first time it would be better to take precautions, meet in day light, just perhaps for coffee, if you meet for the whole evening it could be boring and it can be awkward if you want to get away. Also ask a friend or relative to ring you when you first meet. You then have an excuse to leave if you want.

Pubs and nightclubs are ideal for the younger element, and some older!! But the majority of people will not meet a partner this way.

If you Google holidays you will see plenty of holidays for solo people. Also travel brochures advertise solo holidays.

Cruises are also a good way to make new friends.

There are solo cabins, and on board there are solo coffee mornings, where passengers can get to know each other and arrange to meet in groups.

Often they provide a solo afternoon tea for people to chat.

For those you have had bereavement, Cruse is available and the people there will be in the same boat as yourself.

So basically, to start your journey, look at your own interests, then see if there are any interest groups that you can join. If there is not an interest group, maybe you could start one yourself.

Remember doors open doors, you may join a lunch group and meet new friends but then you may also meet a new partner too.

So it will make you feel a lot better increasing your social life and widening your interests even if you don’t meet Mr or Mrs Right immediately.

After all it is only a matter of time before you do.

Blowing hot and cold in a relationship can be sign of many things, but mostly that the person wants the control. They also do not want to get hurt.

It is so upsetting if this happens to you especially if they have been very keen, which they usually have been, as they want to be intimate with you. The important thing is to find out whether he is using you.

Sometimes they pull away because they feel that they cannot and never could make you happy. You could just ignore it for a while and see if things change.

You could ask them straight out why they are behaving this way. If they deny it and say that they don’t know what you are talking about then you know that you are in trouble.

He or she is probably immature emotionally and you will have to either finish it, or put up with the situation, which will probably never improve.

Often, they behave this way because they have been hurt in the past.

Ask yourself do you want to get involved with someone who is so unpredictable and lacking empathy.

They obviously just want the power over you, and you will just never be compatible.

They will also confuse you and make you unhappy.

So, your only choice is to walk away.