If you are looking for a new partner, it is tricky these days, especially with Covid stopping many social events. However, things are beginning to relax so bear this in mind.

Look at your own interests first and what you like doing.

For instance, you might like reading. Most Libraries have a book club, which is usually free. They also hold events, talks and day classes at very reasonable prices.

You may like some kind of craft-work, look at your local council, community, college and schools as they usually hold a variety of interests.

If you like exercise there are local Gyms but if you can, go to one with a café so that you can sit and chat and talk to others. Go to the classes they have too, not just go on the equipment and you will soon start conversations.

There are rambling groups that you could join and if you like swimming, there are swimming times where adults only attend. If you go regularly you can soon get talking and widen your social life.

There is a lot out there if you know where to look.

For retired or semi-retired people, men and women, the U3A is very good. It stands for Universe of the Third Age, the last third of your life!! There are over a thousand of these clubs in the UK.

It is a club not a dating agency, although you may well meet someone there. It is reasonably priced, about £18 per year, this varies from club to club but only by a little.

The format is usually business of the day first, where people explain what is on offer, for example a day out to Whitby and the cost and the details.

Then there is usually a speaker for an hour, which could be on any subject from Tudor History to Bird Watching.

There are often about thirty interest groups which are held once a month that you can attend as well. These interest groups can be on anything like a lunch group, rambling group, poetry, tenpin bowling and so on.

Most details are on the web sites. It is a great way to increase your social life.

If you want to look specifically for a partner, then of course there are the dating sites.

You could Google the best ten, however it is better to pay for the site, although you could try the free ones first. But in my experience of doing readings the majority of people find if you pay you tend to get more genuine people.

It would be better if you gave a nick name at first, to prospective dates, and never give your real name and your e-mail as it is possible for them to hack into your bank. I have seen it done.

Of course, when meeting someone for the first time it would be better to take precautions, meet in day light, just perhaps for coffee, if you meet for the whole evening it could be boring and it can be awkward if you want to get away. Also ask a friend or relative to ring you when you first meet. You then have an excuse to leave if you want.

Pubs and nightclubs are ideal for the younger element, and some older!! But the majority of people will not meet a partner this way.

If you Google holidays you will see plenty of holidays for solo people. Also travel brochures advertise solo holidays.

Cruises are also a good way to make new friends.

There are solo cabins, and on board there are solo coffee mornings, where passengers can get to know each other and arrange to meet in groups.

Often they provide a solo afternoon tea for people to chat.

For those you have had bereavement, Cruse is available and the people there will be in the same boat as yourself.

So basically, to start your journey, look at your own interests, then see if there are any interest groups that you can join. If there is not an interest group, maybe you could start one yourself.

Remember doors open doors, you may join a lunch group and meet new friends but then you may also meet a new partner too.

So it will make you feel a lot better increasing your social life and widening your interests even if you don’t meet Mr or Mrs Right immediately.

After all it is only a matter of time before you do.

Blowing hot and cold in a relationship can be sign of many things, but mostly that the person wants the control. They also do not want to get hurt.

It is so upsetting if this happens to you especially if they have been very keen, which they usually have been, as they want to be intimate with you. The important thing is to find out whether he is using you.

Sometimes they pull away because they feel that they cannot and never could make you happy. You could just ignore it for a while and see if things change.

You could ask them straight out why they are behaving this way. If they deny it and say that they don’t know what you are talking about then you know that you are in trouble.

He or she is probably immature emotionally and you will have to either finish it, or put up with the situation, which will probably never improve.

Often, they behave this way because they have been hurt in the past.

Ask yourself do you want to get involved with someone who is so unpredictable and lacking empathy.

They obviously just want the power over you, and you will just never be compatible.

They will also confuse you and make you unhappy.

So, your only choice is to walk away.

There are many reasons why a new boyfriend may blow hot and cold.

If the relationship is fairly new, then he might not know what his feelings are.

He may even feel a bit nervous, especially if he has recently come out of a relationship himself.

He may be just messing you about because he does not know what he wants.

Of course, he may be playing the field and have one or two others on the go until he makes his mind up who he wants.

One thing is for sure if he keeps coming back then there is some attraction and he does like you, but what you want to know is to what extent and will it last.

Sometimes he just wants to play it cool and see how you react.

Some just carry on though, seeing others and playing hot and cold all their lives, because at the end of the day they do not really want to commit.

So, it is not your fault, they would be same with anyone else.

Other’s use is as a strategy, playing mind games to make you keener.

It is a way a man has power over you and the relationship.

Some men use it as a way to make you contact them and hope that you do the running.

Sometimes a lot is going on in his life that he has to deal with, so you will have to give him time to work things out, as you will not be his priority.

Some men panic when feelings start to develop between you, and they draw back to see how they feel about the relationship and the future of it.

It can be very frustrating and upsetting when a man behaves like this in a relationship.

I will give you some tips next month on how to deal with someone who behaves like this.

Day In The Life Of A Psychic (7)

When I used to live in London, I used to attend a spiritual group which, for the purposes of this blog, I am going to call the Divine Heart, run by a Cockney guru who I will call Smithy. At the very first meditation I attended, I had a vision in which I saw the dark sphere of a planet with emerald, orange and blue light around it.

‘Those are the colours that you need in order to heal,’ Smithy told me.

And then, over the course of the ensuing conversation, I must have mentioned something about some of the difficult people in my life. And Smithy gave me a piece of wise advice which has remained with me ever since, that, as the more spiritually evolved being, I had to take a greater share of the responsibility for whichever relationship was concerning me.

Then another member of the group, a very polite Englishman whom I will call Alistair, began to discuss the pain of unrequited love. He said that he had once sent a Faberge egg to a former lover, but that despite the beauty of the gift, the object of his affection had not responded. That tale makes me think of some of my lovely clients at Elizabeth Rose/Moon Predictions: kind, nurturing people who are giving their precious energy and attention to those who may not in fact be worthy of it. After all, we all have a finite level of energy and attention – these are our Faberge eggs – and when we give these away, we need to ensure that a level of reciprocity meets our efforts.

At the next spiritual meeting of the Divine Heart, there was a very young, good-looking girl called Chelsea. She seemed very popular with the other members of the group and it was difficult not to feel a bit jealous when Smithy gave her a fleece to wear because she was cold. But then, funnily enough, jealousy proved to be the theme of the meditation. As I shut my eyes and Smithy incanted the Divine Heart mantra, I saw a green knight stab a green girl with a vicious lance. These visionary images recalled the pictures of my Gilded tarot pack. The green knight was the Knight of Pentacles, and the green girl was the Page of Pentacles, and when I read tarot, I often associate these cards with jealousy and envy. The association with Pentacles can mean that these difficult emotions are linked with coins or money, and with the feeling that someone else is doing better or outshining us.

However, one of the ways in which I learned to cope with my own jealousy was to realise that we are all on our own paths, and that what is right and appropriate for someone else might be entirely wrong for me. In fact, after this quite powerful meditation, I never really suffered from jealousy again. It was as if it had been ‘killed’ for me. Instead, I learned to focus on improving my own life, and to regard other people’s achievements as a source of inspiration rather than envy.

In the rest of the vision, I saw some nice, spiritual women wearing rather Biblical headscarves, and I thought possibly they represented the new friends I was making at psychic college. I remember thinking that these healthy, positive friendships were where I should be directing my energy, rather than wasting my time on destructive and draining emotions. In the meditation, I rested in this pleasant vale with these pleasant women until it was time to knock on a door of light on a mountainside. I remember knocking really hard but still the door would not open for me – until, finally, it did. I entered the light.

I don’t exactly know that that vision meant but I do know that throughout my life, persistence and determination have been crucial to achieving what I wanted. But then, it’s worth remembering that what looks like overnight success may in fact have many years of dedicated study behind it. In my own case, I studied meditation online for two years, and then I studied for four years at psychic college before I applied to work at Elizabeth Rose/Moon Predictions. And now we are coming out of lockdown, there are still many new things I want to learn and explore.

People have tried to predict the future since the beginning of time, and they have used some very strange things and rituals to do it.

Hieromancy is one of the ancient ways they used, which is divination using entrails of animals or humans using them as a sacrifice. Sometimes the animals were alive, and they studied the entrails as they dropped. This gory practice was also known by other names, and it was popular in Greece and gradually spread throughout the world. In a ritual an animal would be sacrificed and their internal organs with especial attention to the liver which would be inspected carefully. A healthy liver was a good sign for the future but if the liver was not healthy or lacked a lobe then it was believed that doom was imminent. A defect in the animal’s heart was also very bad news, but a healthy heart was very good news.

Using the blood and bodily fluids however had a category of its own and was called Dririmancy. This practice was usually performed in conjunction with Hieromancy, but it could be used on its own, as it was considered a different practice.

Human sacrifices that were offered would crackle as they burnt, and these crackling sounds would be used to make predictions for the future.

Everyone knows the one about Friday the thirteen being very dodgy and people worry that something nasty will happen to them.

It is commonly thought that it originates from the fact that Judas Iscariot was the 13^th guest at the last supper. Also that Jesus was crucified on a Friday. However there are other believes from where this superstition came from.

Breaking a mirror was thought to bring bad luck for 7 years apparently because it takes seven years to replace the cells in the body.

Some thought that your soul was reflected in a mirror and to break the mirror meant then that your soul was harmed.

Opening an umbrella was considered bad luck apart from the obvious fact that you could knock something over; it was thought to offend the Sun God by blocking the suns rays by opening the umbrella inside.

Some also thought that umbrellas were magical as they blocked the sun.

Others even thought that opening an umbrella inside would bring death and misfortune to the people who lived there.

Knocking on wood for good fortune derived from when they thought that Gods actually lived in trees.

A person would knock lightly on the wood for a favour then knock lightly again to thank them when the favour was granted, but on the same tree.

This superstition might also be derived from the fact that Jesus died on a cross made from wood.

It does seem strange that an innocent pack of playing cards can be traced back hundreds of years.

It does need considerable skill to use the cards to do a reading and it does require that the person having a reading chooses a variety of the cards in order to get a good all round reading too.

There is a ritual that needs to be done before the reading commences.

 Does the client want a general reading or to go into a particular aspect of their life?

If for instance the client wanted a reading on love and romance then a particular spread of the cards would be used.

They can ask several questions from the same spread.

It is important that the client handles the spread and puts their vibrations on them and to also shuffle and cut them thoroughly.

It is also important to have a relaxed atmosphere whilst doing the reading.

You need a warm room rather than a cold room and sometimes burning candles, or a burning joss stick can achieve a lovely atmosphere.

After the reading is completed it is important to thoroughly shuffle the cards and return them to a secluded place of safety, ready for the next reading.

A learner of Cartomancy must first use the literal meaning of the cards to do a reading.

It is an advantage to have a sensitive nature and empathy for people, but not absolutely necessary to be a good reader, however this can develop over time with working with the cards.

However it may take longer to grasp the psychic side, which will kick in and override of the cards eventually.

Nostradamus or Michel de Nostredame as probably the most well-known prophet of ancient times.

He was born on 21 December in 1503 in Salon-de-Provence, in France. He died 2 July 1566 aged 62.

He was an author, translator, astrologer, and a consultant. He was known for making many prophecies and for treating the plague. His book ‘Les Propheties’ was a collection of 942 poems predicting future events and was published in 1555.

His family was originally Jewish but had converted to Catholics before he was born. He attended the University of Avignon however he had to leave after a year due to an outbreak of the plague. He worked as an apothecary or as it is known today, like a pharmacy. He then went back to university at the University of Montpellier but was unfortunately expelled when they found out that he worked as an apothecary as this was against the rules.

He married in 1531 but his two children and his wife died in 1534 during a plague outbreak. He married again and had six more children. He also worked as an astrologer for wealthy people. He unfortunately suffered with severe gout towards the end of his life. Some believe that Nostradamus predicted the great fire of London in 1666. Another belief is that he predicted the rise of Adolph Hitler. It is also thought that he predicted the atomic bombs between Hiroshima and Nagasaki which were bombed at the end of World War two. The assassination of John F Kennedy is also one of his predictions.

In 1888 an author Edward Bellamy predicted credit cards. In his book called “Looking Backward” he wrote. Each person is given a physical punch card “with which he procures at the public storehouses, found in every community, whatever he desires whenever he desires it. This arrangement, you will see, totally obviates the necessity for business transactions of any sort between individuals and consumers”. Was this a premonition or just a coincidence?

Jules Verne predicted many details that were close in 1865. He wrote about the weightlessness that astronauts experienced, something that he could not have possibly known. He also predicted that three astronauts would be on that first moon mission and that they would launch from Tampa Florida. The Apollo 11 mission launched from the Kennedy Space Centre in Orlando nearby.

The first organ major transplant was in 1954. How ever a chemist called Robert Boyle predicted transplants 300 years ago. He had a list and nearly all of his predictions have come true. It is incredible that he made this prediction in 1660 when the medical world new so little. Surely not just a coincidence?